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Posted on 02. May, 2013 by Kenny.Several years ago, I read a pretty amazing book by Patrick Lencioni, Three Big Questions for the Frantic Family. Lencioni writes amazing books for business leaders about overcoming dysfunction within teams, having better meetings, clarifying core values and other important business objectives. However, he dipped into sacred family territory with Three Big Questions and I must admit, it made quite the splash in my family. Within a couple of weeks, we had a chalk board in our kitchen and several of our friends moved chalk and dry erase boards into their kitchens. Was the book helpful? Yes! Are we good at applying the principles. Not always. Maybe we just need a coach to help us move along at times. A new book just came out that approaches the same topic. Bruce Feiler wrote the book, The Secret of Happy Families. Bruce was inspired by Agile software programing, a system to keep teams on track with software development and saw connections to daily family life. The system encourages practices which encourage flexibility, bottom-up idea flow, constant feedback and accountability. Why not apply this to the family. He did and the result was a best-selling book and a TED talk. What do you think? Have these business/family crossovers been helpful? Inspiring? Lacking? Anyway, below is the TED talk by Bruce Feiler:
Posted on 25. Apr, 2013 by Kenny.Orange released a new app yesterday. It's both frightening, amazing and depressing all at the same time. Whatever emotion you feel, it's a truth that no parent should ignore. We have limited time. Below I have put in both of my kids. Wow! Time is ticking away! This app allows you to put in a child's birthdate and it estimates the time left until their graduation. It is a visual representation of the time we have left to influence a child before they leave home. You can also add in specific events and see the countdown until that day. When you see the time you have left, you get serious about the time you have now. Download the app right here.
Posted on 28. Mar, 2013 by Kenny.
I love this comercial from 12 Stone Church, a great church outside of Atlanta, GA. They took a comical look at the very real frustration that parents of young kids feel about getting to church on time.
Posted on 27. Mar, 2013 by Kenny.
I’m very involved in the student ministry at my church now and as a result, I’ve learned a lot more about what students are “in to” these days. When you know what the Middle School and High Scholl students are doing, I know it’s only a matter of time before the elementary kids are into it as well. It took a while before I started getting friend request from elementary kids, but now it’s common to see 4th and 5th graders getting onto Facebook. I’m also starting to get follows from many of our older elementary kids on Instagram, so the social media juggernaut is well on it’s way into elementary life!
Although Apple keeps most objectionable apps out of the store, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t apps that can be incredibly destructive to young people.… Read the rest
Posted on 21. Jan, 2013 by Kenny.I'm going to jump off from the post I wrote last week about the kind of faith we're pushing. These are the questions I'm thinking about for my family as well as questions I'm thinking about for the ministry I lead. I've found that the longer I've followed Christ, the easier it is to become institutionalized. We surround ourselves with people who think like we do, act like we do and believe like we do. We so easily create a Christian ghetto and consider it a good thing. I remember being a part of a church a long time ago that created a ministry environment where there was something to do at the church practically every night of the week. From athletics, school, swimming pool and even a cemetery, every significant experience in your life could happen right on that 80 acres of property. Christian parents tend to do the same with their kids. We want to protect, protect, protect. Protecting isn't a bad thing, but too much protection may have a negative consequence.
Posted on 30. Nov, 2012 by Kenny.Advent calendars aren't really anything new. I remember them from when I was growing up. However, with the trend of ministries looking for better ways to help parents lead kids in shared spiritual experiences, the advent calendar is the perfect tool. There are some great advent resources around these days, but one I want to highlight is an online Advent calendar that a friend of mine, Jenny Funderburke, put together last year. You can find it at familyadvent.com. It's meant to be a parent guided experience for families that can be done every day between now and Christmas. The calendar begins tomorrow, Saturday, December 1st. Be sure to pass this information along to families in your church.
Posted on 23. Oct, 2012 by Kenny.This video has been making it's rounds, over half a million views in the last six months. Honestly, I saw it yesterday for the first time. I loved it. I laughed multiple times and showed it to Sara. Titus watched it twice. As much as I liked it, I kind of had a problem with it to. This video, along with many others like it continue to prop up an unrealistic view of the family. Sure, it looks like my family, but research says that only 25% of families in America are defined as kids living with both their biological parents. Yes, the family pictured in this video might be God's ideal for families, but 75% of current families in the US will never look like this. If the church continues to point to this image, both in humor and all seriousness, we risk isolating non-traditional families from experiencing the fullness of what God has for them. I'm not speaking out against videos like this. Again, I loved it. However, where are the both serious and humorous videos that inspire families in a less than ideal situation.
Posted on 30. May, 2012 by Kenny.For years now, I've been transitioning Gateway into a family friendly church. It's not that Gateway wasn't family friendly before I got here, but we've been working hard to create intentional opportunities where families are equipped and encouraged and handed tools that empower them to lead their kids on a journey of faith. We've got a lot of things in the works right now and will be unveiling some stuff later this year, but a big win has been the Parent Cue app. Since we use Orange Curriculum (My First Look, 252 Basics and XP3) it makes the Parent Cue app a no brainer for equipping parents. We simply communicate to parents that they need to download the app and now they can better connect with the content their kids get every weekend. Here's the video we produced to promote the Parent Cue App. It's AMAZING!
Posted on 03. May, 2012 by Kenny.I've been working alongside parents now for fifteen years, but I've only done this from the perspective of actually being a parent for the last five. Having kids of your own certainly changes your perspective. We all have hopes and dreams for what our kids will grow up to be. Every time we host a child dedication class, we ask the question, "What does parenting success look like to you?" We also ask another question that hits the same issue from a different angle asking, "If you could pass only one thing to your child by the time they become an adult, what would that thing be?" I know that we put parents on the spot with these questions, but I'm amazed how often parents give answers like, "I want my son to be happy" or "I wan't my kids to be successful" or even, "I want my child to have respect for all people." I'm not going to say that these are wrong things, but if these is the greatest hope this generation of parents have for their kids... well there's no wonder we're seeing moral and spiritual decay. My goal is that by the end of the baptism class, I've either convinced them or at least built a case for wanting an authentic relationship with Jesus for their kids. I absolutely loved Craig Groeschel's talk at Orange this year. He essentially communicated many of the philosophical and strategy positions behind Orange, but from his own personal perspective and experience. His shocking statement was that we should not aim to raise well rounded, highly educated and happy children. That's what our culture communicates as a need, but this doesn't line up with the scriptures.
Posted on 26. Apr, 2012 by Kenny.I'm at the 2012 Orange Conference and so far, it's been pretty amazing, but Orange is always like that. I've actually been able to attend more breakouts than last year... and I've actually been paying closer attention in the general sessions as compared to last year. I hope to publish my notes from some of the sessions/breakouts later tonight. I also had the opportunity to lead a preconference breakout on yesterday, and include some notes from that as well. Stay tuned...