My son is in this phase where he really wants to be in the lead. When we’re walking to any destination, he is determined to be in the front. Even if I’m just walking from the living room to the kitchen. He wants to be the first in the car, the first in the house and the first to his bedroom at bedtime. He’s usually good about not always being first, but there are times where he throws a fit. He’s only five.

Where this can get irritating is when he gets in front of me and slows down. He won’t let me around him because he’s just got to be in the front. Sometimes he doesn’t even know where he’s going and I have to ask him to walk with me because he doesn’t know where to go yet. When I ask him to fall back or if I happen to get somewhere before he does, sometimes he screams, “But Dad, I WANT TO LEAD!!!”

Funny, because I don’t think it s a lot different from what I see in ministry and the world around me. I see a lot of people who greatly desire a position of leadership. I see people who really want influence. I see people who want to get their name out there. For those people, I’d give them the same advice I give my son.

If you want to lead, then actually do something. Okay, I haven’t said that to my son. He’s five, I’m not going to go into the weeds of leadership principles with him. But the truth is the same. If Titus wants to be in front, he needs to know where he’s going and if he can stay 3-5 steps ahead of me, I’ll gladly follow. If he wants to be in the front or be the first… don’t whine, complain or make requests… just do it. Be the first. Get out in front. Do what it takes to lead. When you lead well, people will follow.

Too many people are seeking a position. Stop it. Just do something. Positional leadership is the lowest form of leadership anyway. Just do something worth following and you won’t need to seek anything. Other people are seeking to have a voice in a larger community. Stop it. Say something worth hearing, and people will listen. Real leaders are problem solvers. They’re men and women of action. Stop asking to lead and just lead. Do it well and people will seek you out.