Posted on 10. Aug, 2015 by Kenny.
Initially reading this title, you might be thinking, “oh, this article must be about how we inadvertently kill ministries or events and this will be a list of things to prevent an untimely death.”
No. This article is about bringing a quick and effective death to your ministry… on purpose. It’s about bringing closure to that event that your church has been doing for decades. It’s about bringing an end to that monthly newsletter, the annual project or the mid-week program.
This summer I read a fascinating article titled, “Your Project Deserves a Good Death” and I immediately thought of all the ministry implications.
I want to encourage you to ask yourself an honest question. What ministry, event or project under your care needs a good death? A true test of your leadership will be your courage to follow through and give it (or them) the death it deserves.… Read the rest
Posted on 05. Aug, 2015 by Kenny.
For the last year or two, I learned a valuable insight. I have learned one of the greatest tests of personal leadership. There is something you can do and after you do it, you and everyone around you will have a very clear picture of what kind of leader you are. Are you ready for this? It’s really simple. Okay, here it is.
That’s it. Just leave. Leave for a week. Leave for two weeks. Leave for a month or two. You can even leave for good. When you are gone, your leadership is revealed in multiple ways.
For years I’ve taken a week or two of vacation at a time, which is always a challenge. However, the last two summers I’ve stepped up my game. Last summer I took the entire month of July off. This summer, I was gone for June and July. When you’re a busy person with a lot of responsibilities, it’s a challenging thing to be gone for that long and I do feel that your leadership will be revealed in your absence.
I’ve experienced significant frustration when staff or co-workers leave for an extended break. There have been employees who have left permanently and I’ve struggled to pick up all the pieces. There have been others that made me question, “what in the world have they been doing all this time?” There have been other times where I’ve been frustrated because a decision needed to be made or an action needed to take place, but everything was stalled because no one had been empowered or equipped to move forward without the missing person. That’s bad leadership. So, here are three questions to consider regarding your leadership in the context of leaving:… Read the rest
Posted on 03. Aug, 2015 by Kenny.
It’s been a quite summer for the Conley family. I celebrated my first seven years at Gateway Church with a two month sabbatical. Those who follow me on Instagram probably wondered how long my “vacation” was going to last. Let me just say this.
If you can arrange for your organization to offer sabbaticals – DO IT!
My sabbatical has probably been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. Essentially, it was a giant hug from my church saying “thank for for all your hard work.” It has been a huge investment into me and my family, giving me a chance to recharge my batteries for the season ahead.
I’ll write more about insights from my time off (don’t worry, there weren’t many, ha!).
However, the bigger news is the life-changing event that came just a little sabbatical began. We haven’t talked about it much simply because of our history, but it’s news we really can’t hide any longer.
Sara and I are expecting our third child in December! Yes, we’re having a little baby for Christmas. The baby is due the day after Christmas, but it looks like we’ll meet little number three the week before the holiday. We are absolutely beside ourselves, grateful for family and friends who have surrounded us and grateful to God who has blessed us with “one more thing.”
We find out the gender on Wednesday of this week. Pink or Blue… any guesses?… Read the rest
Posted on 29. Jun, 2015 by Kenny.
Sixteen years ago, my wife and I did an intensive weekend of premarital counseling a month before we got married. It was the best investment we’ve ever made into our marriage. Over the past 7-10 years, I’ve provided premarital counseling for nearly 100 couples and one of the leading motivators has been because of what premarital counseling meant to me as a soon-to-be-married man. For years, I’ve encouraged couples to invest in their marriage regularly. I’d tell them to attend a marriage retreat together. Read a book together. See a counselor for occasional check-ups.
However, there is a stigma about seeing a counselor, isn’t there? Premarital counseling is fine, right? You’re about to get married, so its expected. However, when you find out someone is seeing a counselor, the first thing that comes to your mind is, “what’s going on with them?” or “I hope they’re okay.” I think we’re reluctant to see a counselor because it feels like failure. A voice in our head might say, “you couldn’t do this on your own, so you need someone else to help fix you.”
I’d admit it. I’ve felt this way too. I’m an independent, problem-solving, get-it-done kind of guy. Seeing a counselor is a last resort kind of option. That was until Sara and I started seeing a counselor nine months ago.… Read the rest
Posted on 23. Jun, 2015 by Kenny.
Last week I wrote about my new habit of eating frogs for breakfast every morning (most mornings at least). Even though I have changed my morning routine (I wake up at 4:30 AM most mornings now) and get to a place where I can get my day started by 5:00 AM, I can still struggle to get the ball rolling.
Procrastination is a powerful thing and if I give it any space at all, it will devour my entire morning. Recently I’ve started a new practice that has made my morning routine even more effective. I’ve heard this practice for many years from a variety of sources and coaches, but it never connected. Then I read this post from Shawn Blanc called “the note.”… Read the rest
Posted on 22. Jun, 2015 by Kenny.
This week I’m going to explore some productivity tips and tricks. Productivity is a topic I’m very passionate about probably because I recognize how much much there is that I want to do and how many things there are to distract me from doing what I really want to do. Left to myself, I’ll fail miserably or end up working much harder than I need to.
About fifteen years ago, I was introduced to an idea that would later have huge implications for me. It’s actually a simple chart/matrix the helps you understand how to best spend your time. Although I’ve know this idea for years, it’s only been in recent years that I’ve been more intentional by planning my day according to this chart.
The chart/matrix is the “Time Management Matrix” popularized by Stephen Covey in his book, “7 Habits of Highly Effective people. Here’s the chart:… Read the rest
Posted on 19. Jun, 2015 by Kenny.
This last week I had fun writing about becoming a better communicator and why we need to grow in this area. I thought I’d wrap up with some closing thoughts about communication. Over the past 5-7 years, I’ve been given more and more opportunities to communicate on a variety of stages. Some of the experiences have been spectacular and others have been… let’s just say I wish I could have done things differently.
From my experiences, here are the things I’ve found to be most true of my very best talks. I know that when I do these things, my talk is far more likely to be great.… Read the rest
Posted on 18. Jun, 2015 by Kenny.
Just this last week, I’ve been busy with the tedious project of converting old VHS video to digital video for archiving purposes. It was fun watching videos of me speaking as a 22 year old Children’s Pastor or briefly speaking at my High School graduation. Thankfully, I’ve come a long way. I’m a little embarrassed by how “green” I was. I fumbled over my words and lacked the skills that would come with years and years of experience.
Watching these videos reinforced something I believe with all my heart. The level of your leadership will be determined by your ability to communicate. Yes, there are other skills that are critical to effective leadership, but communication really is the cornerstone. Here are five reason why you must prioritize your communication skills:… Read the rest
Posted on 17. Jun, 2015 by Kenny.
I’ve been writing about upping the level in which we communicate to kids. I’ve targeted three essentials which include the following:
Humor is vital to the message. The very same words spoken without humor can land on deaf ears. Credibility answers the question, Why should I listen to you?” Without credibility, your message won’t connect as effectively as you’d desire.
Let’s talk about the third essential, packaging.… Read the rest
Posted on 16. Jun, 2015 by Kenny.
This week we’re talking about three essentials when communicating with kids. Specifically we’re talking about:
Last time I wrote about how critical humor is to any audience, especially to kids. It’s one of the best ways to build rapport and keep their attention throughout the talk. Today we’re going to dive into credibility. … Read the rest